“Ughhh why did I eat that second cookie last night?”
“Did I really need that bread before dinner?”
It is safe to say just about everyone has these types of thoughts all the time – I call it food guilt. Food guilt occurs year round but definitely heightens during the holiday season. There are SO many parties and gatherings filled with all types of foods (usually not the healthiest options) and plenty of cocktails.
So how do you avoid food guilt?
Unfortunately, this feeling is very hard to avoid and takes a long time to master, but luckily for you, there are better ways to deal with it…
How you deal with food guilt will be what defines you during this season, because truthfully, when we try to put too much control over food, it usually causes a spiral in the wrong direction. Putting such emphasis and control over food takes the pleasure out of eating and who wants that?! You want to truly enjoy every bite.
As a health coach, I work to help others create sustainable healthy lifestyles. I don’t believe in diets or calorie counting. I believe everyone has to live a balanced life. I believe in the concept of the 90/10 or 80/20 rule. Therefore, I believe you should indulge around the holidays – I mean, you don’t get your Grandma’s pie just every day!
In order to tackle food guilt you need to tune into your body. Learning to listen to your body is the greatest tool you can use…
Okay, so you listen to your body the next morning and you hear those negative thoughts, what do you do?
Think about the positives – seriously, take a minute to take a deep breath and maybe even write it down! Did you spend quality time with people you care about? Did the cookies or pie taste amazing? I dare you to think of two positives. Today is a new day – learn something from how you felt. Maybe you did overeat and physically did not feel good, so next time, remember that ‘not so good’ feeling as you approach the dessert bar for a second time. Did you enjoy the first cookie? Yes.. Do you need the second? Maybe not…
When are you done reflecting, move on. Do something for YOU and get back into the game. Maybe for you that is a workout, a healthy meal, or a good time with friends and family…
Always remember one night isn’t going to kill you so be kind to yourself.
If you are interested in learning more about tackling food guilt or want to hear more about my coaching packages, contact me, I would LOVE to hear from you!
With the Holiday Season in full swing and the year coming to a close, I thought it would be the perfect opportunity to sit down and talk to a new close friend of mine and women entrepreneur; Stephanie Ferisin. Stephanie is a health and lifestyle coach based in Boston, MA and is going to share with everyone a little about her journey as a woman in business as well as some key tips for staying grounded and healthy during the stress of all your holiday parties and festivities.
1. Can you tell us a little about your business and the journey it took to get where you are today?
I help men and women make peace with food and feel at home in their bodies. Because everyone deserves freedom over food, health and happiness.
I know what it’s like to feel powerless around food. It doesn’t feel good. Especially when you know that if you could just get over this “eating thing,” you could step into your full potential. The thing that we don’t realize is that when you try to tighten your grip on controlling food, you swing in the exact opposite direction, eventually. You binge and you feel disappointed, like you lack willpower or control.
But I can tell you now that it’s only when we stop fighting to control our weight that food loses its power over us; we clear our minds of the constant obsession – the calorie-counting, scale-weighing, guilt-induced dieting – and we create more brain space to do what we love to do.
Trust me, I would know. After nearly ten years of battling my weight, I finally dropped my end of the rope. I’ve healed my relationship with food and my body and am now dedicated to helping others do the same.
In 2014, I founded Stephanie Ferisin Health & Wellness with the intention of helping men and women struggling with body image and weight management issues find freedom over food and confidence in their skin and their step. Since then, I’ve learned so much about myself. Being a female solopreneur is both scary (talk about stepping out of your comfort zone!) and liberating at the same time. Similar to my journey in improving my health and healing my relationship with food and my body, I’ve found that there is incredible power behind our mindset. Think about it: the way you do anything is the way you do everything, right? Better yet, the way you eat is the way you live your life. For me, that’s meant trusting myself when taking risks. I trust that I may make mistakes along the way (I’m perfectly imperfect. We all are.), but I’ll learn from them and grow from the experience.
2. With 2014 coming to a close, what advice do you give to your clients looking to make changes in the coming year?
As this year comes to a close, I’m thinking about all of the incredible changes I’ve experienced – I started my business, became a barre fitness instructor, got engaged and have solidified friendships with people who are more like family, who love and support me. With the coming of the New Year, I know many people start thinking about health-related (or really, weight-related) goals. Perhaps they want to lose weight, “slim down,” get toned muscles, you name it. But so long as they are preoccupied by the size and shape of their bodies, they will be fighting for control. And by now you know that trying to gain control over your weight is not the answer to achieving long-lasting health and happiness.
So as you prepare to set your intention for the coming year, consider the following: “When we decide the journey matters as much as the result and that we want to have a good time, most of the time, we radically change our personal definition of success.” – Danielle Laporte
It’s not about the goal, it’s about how you feel when you get there. So if you’re looking to make positive changes in your life — your health, your career, your love life, your social life — consider thinking about how you’d really like to feel along your journey. To help you get started, I’ve outlined the steps you can take to identifying your core desired feelings and getting crystal clear about what you want. Enjoy!
5-step exercise to identify your core desired feelings:
In each of the areas of your life (listed below), describe how you would like to feel.
Stay away from bold words like confidence and success
Go deeper and ask yourself, “What is confidence?”
Ex: confidence is feeling acceptance
Don’t rely on outside forces to define your reality
If you want to feel acceptance, how can you set the rules up for yourself? Can you practice more self-compassion and find acceptance with yourself? Ask yourself: “What can I do to bring this feeling to the moment? How can I set up the rules for myself?”
Remember, you can’t choose what happens to you but you can choose how you feel about it
Declaration of core desired feelings
Write it down on a piece of paper and place it somewhere visible. It’s your reminder when you feel like you’ve gotten off track.
Question your motivation
Why do you want what you want? Who am I trying to please?
If you find yourself sliding back to old habits or thought patterns, ask yourself: “Am I moving towards or away from my core desired feelings?”
A big thank you to Stephanie for sharing these amazing tips on getting through the Holiday Season and beginning a new journey into 2015. I hope everyone takes something from her message and enjoys the next few weeks with friends and family!
If you want to work or learn more about Stephanie’s Health and Lifestyle coaching visit her website at www.stephanieferisin.com
This article also appears on Women’s iLab to inspire the next generation of female leaders.